Having trouble connecting with my mother?
Posted on March 11th, 2010 by admin
My mom is the traditional strict arabic parent. She won’t let me have any freedom outside of school and work. I know I sound like a baby, but sometimes I just want to do something as simple as go to the mall with my best friend, or see a good movie with my sister, make my own decision in terms of what college I go to, or even attend school functions.
She and I have been arguing a lot lately, and I feel like I’m losing connection with her. I’m so upset because I don’t know what to do to make the both of us happy.
Is there anyone who can relate to me and give me any bit of advice? Jazak Allah Khair.
Sorry if I come off as whining, that’s not my intention. I just want for both my mother and I to be happy, without earning the displeasure of Allah (swt).
"And [remember that] her womb was your abode, and her lap your refuge, and her breast your feeder, and her whole existence your protection; it was she, not you, who was braving the heat and cold of this world for your safety."
i understand in a situation that you are in,but if she is more concern about u and ur actions and he cares and keep a check on ur actions its because she want to see you happy and be in straight path though she might be too strict but the best way for solving the solution is not arguing each other but you have to find the root cause suppose if she is not allowing you to go to mall?Y
she doesnt like ur friends or the environment?……
just sit with her and discuss the situation and tell her you are not a baby now and want to take ur decisions by ur own and all ur issue she is the one who can help you in best way and if there she has different perception you can discuss but im sure wat she do for you is just she cares n loves u alot.